A couple weeks ago I had completely given up hope and decided that the only option to heal my skin for good was Accutane (Roaccutane.)
In the United States it can be quite a lengthy process to obtain the drug from a dermatologist, but here in France it was still a process: but much simpler.
I was handed the leaflet in French and told to read over all the possible side-effects. I read it, but I simply thought: "I want clear skin so badly, I'm not worried about getting any side effects. My mom was fine, so I'll be fine too."
I started the treatment and my skin cleared up practically overnight. I stopped getting pimples. Within a week my skin was completely clear. After suffering for years, I was so excited about the results I could hardly believe it.
One day, about a week into the treatment, I woke up and felt funny. I had no desire to get out of bed. I had no desire to exercise, meditate, eat or even simply move.
Which if you know me, you know those are the many things I love to do! What was going on?
It was the first time in my life that I felt possibly a fraction of what people who suffer from depression feel.
My entire body ached. I felt sick to my stomach. I had no appetite to eat. My neck was extremely sore. My brain felt foggy and tired. I could hardly keep my eyes open for more than 3 minutes. It took so much energy to even just move around the house or get myself dressed for the day.
Then it all clicked. These were all side effects of Accutane.
I instantly called my doctor and she was shocked, but agreed it was not normal. She told me most people don't see side effects like mine until they were on a higher dosage. I was only on 25 mg. She told me to stop for a couple days and see how I felt.
I stopped and my symptoms went away. My doctor decided that my body just couldn't handle Accutane, but it had worked so well for me that I insisted to try again.
This time the effects were worse. I started slowly with the medication and my neck was feeling better, so I decided to take a dance class. The dance classes I take are quite hard core. They are for professionals and very fast paced. I didn't think anything of it.
I woke up the next morning after the dance class with the worse pain I have ever felt in my neck. I couldn't move. I didn't want to walk. It hurt so bad. My muscles in my neck were on fire. I was scared.
I went to the doctor and she knew exactly what was going on. She told me: "Any athletes like you should not be on Accutane. Accutane weakens muscles and joints and makes them more susceptible to injuries and tears." My eyes got wide.
"You need to stop this medication now. A dancer should not be on this." She told me.
Even though I didn't want to admit it, I knew it was true.
I had no grief about stopping the medication. Acne was nothing compared to how bad I felt and the pain I was enduring.
Sadly, I don't know when I'll be able to dance again, because necks take a very long time to heal.
If I would have known what this pill can really do, I never would have gone on it.
But I'm grateful for the experience, because no matter how painful, now I know that with or without acne we are all beautiful and worthy.
Acne is a symptom of something going on in the body. Accutane is a cover-up. It may cover up the problem for a while, but the problem still remains.
I'm not writing this article to scare anyone. This is simply my story. Every body is different, and I know that my body is very sensitive and always has been.
This time, I'm choosing to take a whole body, mind and soul approach.
I'm limiting my stress through daily meditation, yoga and journaling. I'm eating a 100% whole foods plant based diet where I've eliminated all foods that are heavily processed or trigger my acne.
I am more determined than ever to get to the root of this issue instead of searching for a band-aid.
This drug is serious.
I took it lightly and I shouldn't have. I'm now focusing on healing and getting better so that I can dance again.
Love and light xoxo
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”. -Albert Einstein
After two years on a mostly vegan diet, my skin was at its worse. I was at my wits end, and I was searching for answers.
I had tried altering my levels of fat and protein intake from plant sources and processed soy foods, but nothing was working. In fact, adding in more of those manufactured "vegan" foods made my skin even worse.
I decided to launch into some research on the link between vitamin deficieny and the skin. The information I found is staggering.
Vitamin A, E and Zinc
Research was done on two groups of people: those with moderate to severe acne and those without. The results from the study showed that the group with lower levels of Vitamin A and E had higher amounts of acne. Those with lower levels of zinc also saw a worsening of acne.
The signs of Vitamin A Deficiency are the following: night blindness, dry eyes, higher chance of respiratory, lung and ear infection(s), acne, cystic acne, skin flaking, dry scalp and dandruff.
As soon as I read that list, I understood.
Vitamin A helps acne by reducing the amount of sebum, or oil, produced by the skin. Vitamin A is an antioxidant and helps to reduce free radicals both on the skin and in the body.
The best way for your body to integrate nutrients for proper functioning is through the diet.
Vitamin A sources in the diet: liver, dairy products, fish, dark leafy green vegetables, yellow, orange and red fruits and veggies.
***One article I read suggested that it is best to get most of your Vitamin A from animal sources if you have a bad or compromised gut micro-biome. Because if you have a gut biome that is not functioning properly your body is not efficient at converting Vitamin A from plant sources. (Signs of a bad gut= IBS, crones, constipation, diarrhea, use of antibiotics over a period of time...you get the idea.)
Vitamin E sources in the diet: almonds, raw seeds, swiss chard, spinach, kale, plant oils, pumpkin and sesame seeds, mustard greens, hazelnuts, avocado, broccoli, parsley, papaya, olives.
I also love adding a plant based protein powder into my daily routine and this one from Arbonne is delicious and adds 20 vitamins and minerals (including vitamin E!) to your daily routine.
Zinc sources in the diet: pumpkin seeds (57% of daily value+++), grass fed beef, lamb, cashews, chickpeas, mushrooms, chicken, kefir, natural yogurt, spinach, raw cacao powder.
Zinc is super super SUPER important because it helps kill acne causing bacteria. One study found that high amounts of digestible zinc was almost as effective as minocycline, an antibiotic often prescribed for moderate to severe acne.
I prefer not to eat meat, so I take a supplement of Zinc Picolinate 22 MG one time a day after a large meal. Zinc Picolinate is the most easily absorbed form for the body, however, I would suggest talking to a doctor or pharmacy tech before taking it. (Taking a Zinc supplement could offset the amount of copper in your body, and that is not good either, so make sure you are getting enough sources of copper.)
Gut Health and the Skin
The role between gut health and our skin is staggering. It makes sense that if you have bacteria in your gut that is out of whack, your bacteria on your skin will also be out of whack.
Skin is the body's largest detox organ, so if you are missing key nutrients and getting too much of one thing (for me it was an increase in carbs, even the good kind!), your body will respond to try to help you out.
Acne is simply your body sending you a signal that something in your lifestyle isn't working for your benefit.
I highly suggest taking a pro-biotic such as the one from Arbonne called Digestion Plus. It is formulated with pre-biotics which help our bodies to produce more good bacteria and less bad. It's also super easy to use because you add it to water or any type of drink and it's tasteless. No pills, no problem!
I've been adding in some all natural yogurts, kefir, full fat cheeses and some organic skim milk into my diet and the results on my skin are staggering. Overall my diet has been more balanced and I have less redness, less irritation, less acne!!!! It's only been 1 week and I can't wait to see even more results.
However, I want to point out that I don't believe one diet fits all. I truly believe it's best to experiment and find what works best for you and your body.
My old vegan diet of oatmeal, bananas, tofu, soy yogurt, more bananas and more oatmeal was simply not cutting it. Now I am eating balanced, whole foods consciously and with moderation.
My best friend Jessica said it best when it comes to finding balance in our diet: "Eating carrots once in your life will not help you to be healthy. Just as eating a dessert every once and a while will not stop your progress of being healthy."
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A little over 4 months ago I wrote an article that I never intended to publish.
It was an accident that it got submitted for publication in the first place. I woke up one morning to an e-mail announcing that my article about Twin Flames was going to be published on one of the biggest online platforms in the country.
My heart sunk and my entire body was filled with dread. I started to panic. Everyone would know what I had tried to keep to myself for so long, because even I didn't understand it.
However, dread soon turned to excitement as I saw the number of shares soar into the thousands. That article currently has 9.7k shares. I thought: "maybe people would be open to hearing my story...maybe I wouldn't have to hide anymore?"
Since then, I have had many people reach out to me. All for which I am eternally grateful and honored.
I feel it only honest and authentic to share with you why I wrote that article in the first place. Because the longer I deny myself this freedom of speaking my truth, the longer I will feel in the dark.
The past two years of my life have been a whirl-wind. I changed instantly, almost over-night due to a very brief encounter. I woke up one day and I couldn't go back to who I used to be.
Everything about me changed. Every limiting belief, fear and pain in me had been brought to the surface. Everything was highlighted, stronger and life had more meaning. I finally felt in me a huge surge in purpose, in identity.
I saw myself connected to everyone and everything on the planet. I had a spiritual awakening and upon returning from France in 2016 I tried to blend my old life with my new one.
It was almost if I had been walking through life drunk and I suddenly woke up sober. I had to make changes. I had to let go of people, places and ideas that were no longer right for me.
I had a connection to someone that was unexplainable and supernatural. Many times I tried to forget. Many times I ran from the feelings I felt. Many times I thought I was going mentally insane.
Until I met someone who understood. I met someone like me who assured me that what I was going through was supernatural, spiritual, but it didn't mean I was crazy. She called it twin flames.
It sounded like some weird voodoo cousin to the idea of soulmates.
I was trying to figure out how my outer world could be so vastly different from how I felt on the inside. Because even when the outer "relationship" was going in the deep end I still felt immense love.
I would have dreams before, during and after meeting this person that to this day blow my mind. I got clues about where we would meet, how and when.
I experienced telepathy and out of body experiences. I would feel emotions out of nowhere that were not mine. My soul was pushing me to let go and to allow myself to be who I had always been.
The psychic gifts I long denied in myself came back full force. I had to accept them. I guess you could say I started seeing spirits. My medium gifts came to me slowly and then all at once.
Until this day I have not felt comfortable talking about my experiences or my spiritual gifts for fear of rejection, humiliation and isolation. I've feared being labeled as a "freak."
But believe me when I say that sometimes life chooses a path for you that you did not. Sometimes destiny has a way of catching up to you.
My life would be easier if I had never met this person, but I would not be who I am today. Sometimes people serve a great purpose in your life, but that doesn't always mean they are meant to stay in my our lives.
In the beginning, I only shared my story and gifts with those that needed it most. But I'm done hiding, and I'm done living two lives.
I am one whole person. I do not want to live this part of my life in the shadows anymore. I don't want to be separate from who I truly am.
Because we are humans and we are flawed with wounds and scars that no one can see. But after this experience I found the courage in me to stop denying my pain and start accepting it.
I started to accept that all the fears in me of not being good enough, or pretty enough or this or that enough were just excuses. They were illusions.
They were my mental mind trying to fit the story of what I saw and experienced into the standard that society projects onto us.
But this world is a hologram. We are dreamers constantly dreaming. We dream when we sleep, but we also dream when we are awake. This is my dream. This is my reality. I don't want to live in society's dream anymore.
Over time I've learned to let go. I've learned to understand that when someone doesn't choose us it is not rejection. It is learning. It is growth for their soul and our's. It is our energy telling us that there is more out there in this life. Energy must flow. Energy wants to expand and evolve and anything in the past is simply that, in the past.
But it is a gift. Everything in this life is a gift. Every lesson. Every hardship.
There are soul contracts we have with other souls and other lessons we need to learn. All we can do is love. Love everyone and accept their choices.
Because at the end of the day we all have free will. Even if our souls are bound to a path we are constantly on a journey of expansion and evolution. We are constantly choosing our destiny in this one moment we call now.
What ways can we love ourselves more?
What ways can we learn to love others more? What ways can we empower ourselves to be our own creators above fear of judgement?
Anything is possible.
I'm proof of that. We all are.
I hope that someone out there reading this resonates even a little bit with what I've been going through. I am blessed. Above all, I am blessed to have lived two lives in one.
As I'm getting ready to post this on my blog, my entire body is shaking. I'm in fear. I'm scared, but I know I must do this. I must speak my truth.
Because as the consciousness of love and acceptance rises on this planet, I have no doubt in my mind that more and more people with feel comfortable coming forward and sharing their stories too.
I wish you only the best in this life.
I'm not French. Nor will I ever claim to be. However, I have spent the last two years living here in France and learning from the French people.
As Americans, we have a lot we can learn from our European counterparts.
Their relationship with food, for example.
In America we want it fast, cheap and convenient. In France, food is family. Food is savored. Food is shared. Food is quality. And most importantly food is not a chore or an obligation.
They eat everything in moderation. They walk. They enjoy. They never limit or restrict. It's amazing. It's life changing, and it changed my relationship with food and healed my mind from an eating disorder.
I'm so passionate about this way of eating that I want to share it with you all!
So here are my top 5 suggestions on how to eat like the French along with a few meal examples:
Tip #1: Eat 3 Full Meals a Day (With little to no snacking)
Tip #2: Eat Slowly, Sitting Down, Savoring Every Bite
Tip #3: Dessert=Fruit, Cheese, Yogurt or 2 Biscuits
Tip #4: Eat up what you have in the fridge
Tip #5: Drink Water with Most Meals (Coffee, Tea, Wine occasionally)
-Breakfast: Fromage Blanc or Natural Yogurt/Almond Milk Yogurt with some berries, museli (granola: no sugar added) and honey (agave syrup), Green tea on the side
-Lunch: A big green salad with tomatoes, shredded carrots, corn, cucumbers, quinoa, and two organic, free-range hard boiled eggs (*home made vinaigrette: 1 spoon full of apple cider vinegar, 1 spoon full of balsamic vinegar, 2 spoon full's of extra virgin olive oil, some herbs, salt, pepper, and a half spoon full of mustard). Dessert: banana or 2 small biscuits.
-Dinner: a small salmon filet, green beans with slivered almonds and whole grain rice with herbs and spices. Dessert: apple or yogurt.
-Breakfast: 2 pieces of whole grain toast with honey, bananas and cinnamon. An orange. Long black coffee on the side.
-Lunch: Gnocchi pasta with tomato sauce, small green salad, and cheese on the side (or a plant based form of protein such as fermented tofu.) Dessert: strawberries.
-Dinner: Ratatouille (steamed and cooked in olive oil tomatoes, eggplant, zucchini with provencal spices), Red Rice and a form of protein. Baguette on the side with butter or Vegan butter (my favorite is Coconut Oil Butter.) Dessert: home made microwave brownie in a cup.
I really hope you enjoyed these tips and meal ideas. Let me know how you like them and if want to know more about how living and eating in France changed my mindset around food!
I graduated college last December. By February I packed up my essentials into one checked luggage. I boarded a plane to France. I left behind everything.
I had lived in France two times before, but this time had me filled with the most anxiety yet. I was pursuing my dream. I was going after everything I had worked my entire life for. Hours upon hours of dance rehearsals in a day. Training whenever I could fit it in between sorority life, classes and a job.
I had a goal. I knew what I wanted. I had decided long ago that I wasn't going to let circumstance, past life decisions or my studies push me further away from what I wanted.
Once I arrived in France I got injured within the first couple of weeks. I had started dance, but I had to stop. After two weeks of rest I was ready to go again. Now I'm better than ever.
Throughout my life as a dancer I have realized how important it is to take care of your body and listen to your body. This all starts with that you are putting in your body and on your body. (Skin is our biggest organ and takes in everything you put on it. Crazy right?!)
This is why I'm super excited to announce that I am going to be starting my own business as an Independent Consultant for Arbonne!
I've always been someone who likes to be my own boss. Growing up, I watched my parents start their own successful business from the ground up and work from home.
When given the option to start a regular 9 to 5 job, my stomach sunk with dread. I like to be creative. I like to push myself at my own pace. I like to work on projects that interest me. Working for Arbonne as an Independent Consultant is the perfect platform for me to work from anywhere in the world.
A few years ago, I decided to eat mainly plant-based. In the beginning of my journey, my entire mind-set shifted. I became more positive. I had more energy. I wanted to work out and move my body more than ever before. I can honestly say that after 3 years on this journey I still feel the exact same way.
Arbonne provides amazing Vegan products for everyone. I am someone who is super sensitive to about every well-known beauty brand due to their use of artificial fragrance and sulfites. It turns my skin red, acne-prone and dry. (Not to mention the occasional rash.)
I am super excited to be sharing with you all my personal experiences with these products so I can better recommend them to you!
I would never stand behind a brand I didn't believe in. I firmly believe in Arbonne's mission and their values. Not only do they provide amazing beauty products, but they have a nutritional line that looks out of this world too!
I will be starting my 30 days to Healthy Living Challenge when I receive my shipment. I plan to take you along on my Instagram through each day of the process (@jisellehend.) If you are looking to feel your best right before summer we have an amazing value pack that gives you everything you need to do so (2 protein powders, a probiotic supplement, fiber supplement, energy fizz sticks + more.)
If you are interested in starting your journey, feel free to visit my online store (JiselleHenderkott.arbonne.com) and don't hesitate to contact me by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I look forward to connecting with you very soon!
Holy cow...these energies coming into this eclipse are a little crazy. I've been feeling them and seeing the results since last week, but this morning I realized how potent these energies are.
I woke up from a series of nightmares this morning, which wouldn't bother me that much if it weren't for the fact that I haven't had a nightmare in years.
Both the dreams I had dealt with the fear of not being able to defend myself. In both dreams I was trying to use tools to protect myself, and then I had realized that the threat was inside already.
Dreams are always symbolic.
When I feel threatened or triggered by someone or something, I can learn to see that the real threat lies within and with my own perceptions.
This (full moon, blood moon, blue moon) eclipse is digging up our deepest, darkest fears. Anything hiding in the shadows within your heart will be brought up to be faced. But this is only happening to open you up to your highest potential and power.
A cosmic event such as this one hasn't occurred for over 150 years, so the effects will be felt deeply and will last for a while.
This eclipse is in 11 degrees 27 Leo in the constellation of Cancer. Leo is all about fire power, love and confidence. This fire of Leo will burn through all the illusions and outdated beliefs you have around love and being seen for your authentic self. On the flip side, Cancer is all about emotions, family and the home. How can you break down your innermost fears to welcome the relationship, career or change of your dreams?
In addition, eclipses mark endings as well as new beginnings. They will illuminate the truths we were never able to see before. Expect to have more than a couple "a-ha" moments in the weeks to come.
I believe that this eclipse will allow us to stand firm in what we are passionate about. There is an opportunity to find a new-found confidence in your abilities and dreams. The key is to learn to listen to the soft inner voice within. The key is to listen to your emotions and see what they are trying to tell you.
Do not be surprised if the past is dug up for release. A past love, person or situation could come back around again. Think back to what was going on in your life last August. Last August we experienced the Solar Eclipse in Leo, so any themes around love and self-worth that you were facing then will come back around for a do-over.
And for the record, the sign of Leo never does anything small. Be prepared for a sudden change. You will probably be smacked in the face out of nowhere....and it doesn't have to be something to fear.
I'm seeing that most people will have to move through the initial stages of anxiety and fear once everything starts to change, but if they keep strong, their wishes will be granted.
What's different since last August is that you are different, changed. You can make a new choice. You can choose again from a place of love and authenticity. The truth is that you only need yourself to make it happen. People, places and situations may not have changed, but you have.
You can change everything for the better. All you have to do is stand in your truth.
Take a deep breathe. Meditate. Take some time away from people leading up to the eclipse tomorrow morning. The energies will be intense, especially in North America where the eclipse is visible.
Im seeing that during and after this eclipse both males and females will be pushed more into their feminine energy which is all about feeling and expressing emotions.
The rise of the feminine is indeed happening.
So...what emotions have you been holding in? What words or truth have you not been able to say? What chance have you not been willing to take?
You are powerful and you can find the strength. I believe in you.
Happy Eclipse and may you find the calm within the storm. I'm thinking of you.
The Goddess energy is primal and ancient. For thousands of years, the energy of the feminine has been abused, used and shamed.
We are finally in a time where both the masculine and the feminine energies are coming into balance. Why is this so important?
Just take a quick look at the recent headlines: many women are speaking up about sexual abuse and harassment. Women are finding their voices, and men are willing to support them.
The energy of the goddess has always been within you. This energy is not tied to gender. We all have both masculine and feminine within us.
I like to think of the masculine energy as action and the feminine energy as receptivity. During our day to days lives we utilize both energies whether we are consciously aware of it or not.
Here are some simple ways in which you can honor the Goddess within and change your life forever:
1. Look people in the eyes
I performed a sort of experiment the last time I was in Paris. I’m someone who used to be quite shy and could never look anyone in the eyes. After living in France, I noticed how the French don’t shy away from eye contact.
When I was walking in the streets in Paris, I decided to look people in the eyes. What happened was transformative. I felt empowered. I felt sexy. I felt like my best self.
I felt like I wasn’t hiding from who I was anymore.
If you don’t feel comfortable looking strangers in the eyes, that’s fine. Start small. Start looking close family and friends in the eyes when you talk to them. Then, little by little try to extend that to strangers.
2. Don’t need, attract
In our day to day lives it can be easy to fall into the energy of over-giving. Our boundaries get watery, and we simply don’t know when to release control or walk away all together.
The feminine energy is feeling, emotion. We feel so deeply that we inherently care so deeply too.
When you can reign in your energy instead of projecting outward constantly, something truly magical happens.
For example, I like to think of two magnets with a positive and negative polarity. When both magnets are giving the same energy, they repel. If both magnets are giving the opposite energy, they attract. So, this means that to receive what you desire you must learn to create space and focus within yourself.
The easiest way to practice this at first is allowing someone to do something for you. This can be as simple as having a co-worker pick up a shift for you or letting someone open the door for you.
I challenge you to not be afraid to say “yes” when someone offers to do something nice for you. I know that I too often fall into the habit of kindly refusing, because I don’t want to be a bother or show that I need help.
The Goddess in you doesn’t care. She just wants to feel supported.
3. Nurture your flaws
We talk about how important it is to love your flaws, but no one talks about how hard that is. It’s a cycle. It’s like peeling off the layers of an onion. I think I’ve accomplished self-love and acceptance and then I get a zit or I say something horrible to someone I care about…
It’s not easy. It’s a process. The Goddess within you doesn’t see flaws. “Flaws” are created by humans, therefore they are an illusion. They are someone else’s version of reality. You don’t have to accept them as “flaws.” You can just accept them as you.
You can settle safely into the comfort of knowing that the universe is only teaching you how to come back to love. Every experience, every hardship is a lesson in how to love yourself and others more.
Nurture your imperfections. They make you the Goddess you are.
Such a small word, such a hard thing to do. We all know we will be happier once we can accept where we are or what’s currently going on in our lives, but it doesn’t make it any easier.
The Goddess within you takes a deep breath and knows that anything he/she could possibly desire is already within reach. Every possible outcome you can think of already exists. Settle into that comfort and let the rest flow.
Create more than you consume. Now, you don’t have to go and become the next Picasso. I’m talking about writing a “thank you” letter, or writing in your journal every morning.
Create a blog post you’ve always wanted to. Create a poem…whatever tickles your fancy. But there is one requirement: it must be fun.
And no, homework or a work assignment does not count.
You have a passion. You have something that lights you up from the inside. Fan that flame.
The Goddess in you is calling.
It’s easy to let her fall to the wayside under the heavy burden of everyday life. It’s easy to pretend like your life isn’t flying by at a thousand miles per hour.
But if you are here reading this article, it’s a sign that the energy of the Goddess is already within you. Don’t be afraid to be who you really are. I know you can.
Podcast with Robert Dunn originally published on The Orion Group. Topic: Twin Flames Pt. 1
What if all relationships in your life could be healed with one simple understanding?
There would probably be less fights, less divorces and less estranged friends and family members.
The secret to having successful and mutual relationships is much easier than we think.
It doesn’t require extensive therapy or counseling. It doesn’t even require you to talk to the person. It requires one simple saying that you can learn to embody in every interaction in your life.
Love them where they are. Love them as they are, not as who you want them to be.
As humans we are swayed by our own perspectives of the world. But no one else can see like you do, feel like you do much less love like you do.
So don’t expect anyone else to either.
1. Love you where you are
If you crave happy and fulfilling relationships with others, start with yourself. Cultivate a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out to a movie, buy yourself flowers, love yourself even when you are at your worst.
Understand why you feel the way you do. Journal. Think. Write.
Ask yourself questions and don’t just push your feelings aside. Because by doing so you are telling yourself that you do not matter.
The unglamorous truth is that you may have to spend some time alone. You may have to be single for a while. But I promise you, it will be the most worthwhile time spent in your life.
2. Don’t react just reflect
As children we learned how to respond to relationships. Before you could even figure out what a relationship was you had it modeled to you: by your parents.
In my childhood I learned to create contempt. I learned how to blame and judge the other person. I learned how to call the other person names.
There is no judgement. There is only acceptance.
So, when you find yourself feeling triggered by someone ask why. Ask yourself what wound in you is being pressed on.
Then don’t react. Just think. Just breathe. Just accept. Honor the other person and their perspective of their world.
3. Don’t put conditions on the unconditional
We all know that only loving someone when they buy you gifts is wrong. We all know that only loving someone when they tell you is wrong. We all know that loving someone only when they are there physically with you is wrong.
We are taught unconditional love the most in our platonic relationships and somewhere along the way we lost this basic understanding in our romantic relationships.
Romantic relationships got pushed under the heavy pressures of the modern age; leaving more and more young people unhappy, lost and stuck in relationships that leave them feeling alone.
So, in this growing landscape of technology I challenge you to see the simplicity in love: to love yourself first and then…
Love them where they are.
(Originally published on Thought Catalog)