A little over 4 months ago I wrote an article that I never intended to publish.
It was an accident that it got submitted for publication in the first place. I woke up one morning to an e-mail announcing that my article about Twin Flames was going to be published on one of the biggest online platforms in the country.
My heart sunk and my entire body was filled with dread. I started to panic. Everyone would know what I had tried to keep to myself for so long, because even I didn't understand it.
However, dread soon turned to excitement as I saw the number of shares soar into the thousands. That article currently has 9.7k shares. I thought: "maybe people would be open to hearing my story...maybe I wouldn't have to hide anymore?"
Since then, I have had many people reach out to me. All for which I am eternally grateful and honored.
I feel it only honest and authentic to share with you why I wrote that article in the first place. Because the longer I deny myself this freedom of speaking my truth, the longer I will feel in the dark.
The past two years of my life have been a whirl-wind. I changed instantly, almost over-night due to a very brief encounter. I woke up one day and I couldn't go back to who I used to be.
Everything about me changed. Every limiting belief, fear and pain in me had been brought to the surface. Everything was highlighted, stronger and life had more meaning. I finally felt in me a huge surge in purpose, in identity.
I saw myself connected to everyone and everything on the planet. I had a spiritual awakening and upon returning from France in 2016 I tried to blend my old life with my new one.
It was almost if I had been walking through life drunk and I suddenly woke up sober. I had to make changes. I had to let go of people, places and ideas that were no longer right for me.
I had a connection to someone that was unexplainable and supernatural. Many times I tried to forget. Many times I ran from the feelings I felt. Many times I thought I was going mentally insane.
Until I met someone who understood. I met someone like me who assured me that what I was going through was supernatural, spiritual, but it didn't mean I was crazy. She called it twin flames.
It sounded like some weird voodoo cousin to the idea of soulmates.
I was trying to figure out how my outer world could be so vastly different from how I felt on the inside. Because even when the outer "relationship" was going in the deep end I still felt immense love.
I would have dreams before, during and after meeting this person that to this day blow my mind. I got clues about where we would meet, how and when.
I experienced telepathy and out of body experiences. I would feel emotions out of nowhere that were not mine. My soul was pushing me to let go and to allow myself to be who I had always been.
The psychic gifts I long denied in myself came back full force. I had to accept them. I guess you could say I started seeing spirits. My medium gifts came to me slowly and then all at once.
Until this day I have not felt comfortable talking about my experiences or my spiritual gifts for fear of rejection, humiliation and isolation. I've feared being labeled as a "freak."
But believe me when I say that sometimes life chooses a path for you that you did not. Sometimes destiny has a way of catching up to you.
My life would be easier if I had never met this person, but I would not be who I am today. Sometimes people serve a great purpose in your life, but that doesn't always mean they are meant to stay in my our lives.
In the beginning, I only shared my story and gifts with those that needed it most. But I'm done hiding, and I'm done living two lives.
I am one whole person. I do not want to live this part of my life in the shadows anymore. I don't want to be separate from who I truly am.
Because we are humans and we are flawed with wounds and scars that no one can see. But after this experience I found the courage in me to stop denying my pain and start accepting it.
I started to accept that all the fears in me of not being good enough, or pretty enough or this or that enough were just excuses. They were illusions.
They were my mental mind trying to fit the story of what I saw and experienced into the standard that society projects onto us.
But this world is a hologram. We are dreamers constantly dreaming. We dream when we sleep, but we also dream when we are awake. This is my dream. This is my reality. I don't want to live in society's dream anymore.
Over time I've learned to let go. I've learned to understand that when someone doesn't choose us it is not rejection. It is learning. It is growth for their soul and our's. It is our energy telling us that there is more out there in this life. Energy must flow. Energy wants to expand and evolve and anything in the past is simply that, in the past.
But it is a gift. Everything in this life is a gift. Every lesson. Every hardship.
There are soul contracts we have with other souls and other lessons we need to learn. All we can do is love. Love everyone and accept their choices.
Because at the end of the day we all have free will. Even if our souls are bound to a path we are constantly on a journey of expansion and evolution. We are constantly choosing our destiny in this one moment we call now.
What ways can we love ourselves more?
What ways can we learn to love others more? What ways can we empower ourselves to be our own creators above fear of judgement?
Anything is possible.
I'm proof of that. We all are.
I hope that someone out there reading this resonates even a little bit with what I've been going through. I am blessed. Above all, I am blessed to have lived two lives in one.
As I'm getting ready to post this on my blog, my entire body is shaking. I'm in fear. I'm scared, but I know I must do this. I must speak my truth.
Because as the consciousness of love and acceptance rises on this planet, I have no doubt in my mind that more and more people with feel comfortable coming forward and sharing their stories too.
I wish you only the best in this life.
I'm not French. Nor will I ever claim to be. However, I have spent the last two years living here in France and learning from the French people.
As Americans, we have a lot we can learn from our European counterparts.
Their relationship with food, for example.
In America we want it fast, cheap and convenient. In France, food is family. Food is savored. Food is shared. Food is quality. And most importantly food is not a chore or an obligation.
They eat everything in moderation. They walk. They enjoy. They never limit or restrict. It's amazing. It's life changing, and it changed my relationship with food and healed my mind from an eating disorder.
I'm so passionate about this way of eating that I want to share it with you all!
So here are my top 5 suggestions on how to eat like the French along with a few meal examples:
Tip #1: Eat 3 Full Meals a Day (With little to no snacking)
Tip #2: Eat Slowly, Sitting Down, Savoring Every Bite
Tip #3: Dessert=Fruit, Cheese, Yogurt or 2 Biscuits
Tip #4: Eat up what you have in the fridge
Tip #5: Drink Water with Most Meals (Coffee, Tea, Wine occasionally)
-Breakfast: Fromage Blanc or Natural Yogurt/Almond Milk Yogurt with some berries, museli (granola: no sugar added) and honey (agave syrup), Green tea on the side
-Lunch: A big green salad with tomatoes, shredded carrots, corn, cucumbers, quinoa, and two organic, free-range hard boiled eggs (*home made vinaigrette: 1 spoon full of apple cider vinegar, 1 spoon full of balsamic vinegar, 2 spoon full's of extra virgin olive oil, some herbs, salt, pepper, and a half spoon full of mustard). Dessert: banana or 2 small biscuits.
-Dinner: a small salmon filet, green beans with slivered almonds and whole grain rice with herbs and spices. Dessert: apple or yogurt.
-Breakfast: 2 pieces of whole grain toast with honey, bananas and cinnamon. An orange. Long black coffee on the side.
-Lunch: Gnocchi pasta with tomato sauce, small green salad, and cheese on the side (or a plant based form of protein such as fermented tofu.) Dessert: strawberries.
-Dinner: Ratatouille (steamed and cooked in olive oil tomatoes, eggplant, zucchini with provencal spices), Red Rice and a form of protein. Baguette on the side with butter or Vegan butter (my favorite is Coconut Oil Butter.) Dessert: home made microwave brownie in a cup.
I really hope you enjoyed these tips and meal ideas. Let me know how you like them and if want to know more about how living and eating in France changed my mindset around food!
I graduated college last December. By February I packed up my essentials into one checked luggage. I boarded a plane to France. I left behind everything.
I had lived in France two times before, but this time had me filled with the most anxiety yet. I was pursuing my dream. I was going after everything I had worked my entire life for. Hours upon hours of dance rehearsals in a day. Training whenever I could fit it in between sorority life, classes and a job.
I had a goal. I knew what I wanted. I had decided long ago that I wasn't going to let circumstance, past life decisions or my studies push me further away from what I wanted.
Once I arrived in France I got injured within the first couple of weeks. I had started dance, but I had to stop. After two weeks of rest I was ready to go again. Now I'm better than ever.
Throughout my life as a dancer I have realized how important it is to take care of your body and listen to your body. This all starts with that you are putting in your body and on your body. (Skin is our biggest organ and takes in everything you put on it. Crazy right?!)
This is why I'm super excited to announce that I am going to be starting my own business as an Independent Consultant for Arbonne!
I've always been someone who likes to be my own boss. Growing up, I watched my parents start their own successful business from the ground up and work from home.
When given the option to start a regular 9 to 5 job, my stomach sunk with dread. I like to be creative. I like to push myself at my own pace. I like to work on projects that interest me. Working for Arbonne as an Independent Consultant is the perfect platform for me to work from anywhere in the world.
A few years ago, I decided to eat mainly plant-based. In the beginning of my journey, my entire mind-set shifted. I became more positive. I had more energy. I wanted to work out and move my body more than ever before. I can honestly say that after 3 years on this journey I still feel the exact same way.
Arbonne provides amazing Vegan products for everyone. I am someone who is super sensitive to about every well-known beauty brand due to their use of artificial fragrance and sulfites. It turns my skin red, acne-prone and dry. (Not to mention the occasional rash.)
I am super excited to be sharing with you all my personal experiences with these products so I can better recommend them to you!
I would never stand behind a brand I didn't believe in. I firmly believe in Arbonne's mission and their values. Not only do they provide amazing beauty products, but they have a nutritional line that looks out of this world too!
I will be starting my 30 days to Healthy Living Challenge when I receive my shipment. I plan to take you along on my Instagram through each day of the process (@jisellehend.) If you are looking to feel your best right before summer we have an amazing value pack that gives you everything you need to do so (2 protein powders, a probiotic supplement, fiber supplement, energy fizz sticks + more.)
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Holy cow...these energies coming into this eclipse are a little crazy. I've been feeling them and seeing the results since last week, but this morning I realized how potent these energies are.
I woke up from a series of nightmares this morning, which wouldn't bother me that much if it weren't for the fact that I haven't had a nightmare in years.
Both the dreams I had dealt with the fear of not being able to defend myself. In both dreams I was trying to use tools to protect myself, and then I had realized that the threat was inside already.
Dreams are always symbolic.
When I feel threatened or triggered by someone or something, I can learn to see that the real threat lies within and with my own perceptions.
This (full moon, blood moon, blue moon) eclipse is digging up our deepest, darkest fears. Anything hiding in the shadows within your heart will be brought up to be faced. But this is only happening to open you up to your highest potential and power.
A cosmic event such as this one hasn't occurred for over 150 years, so the effects will be felt deeply and will last for a while.
This eclipse is in 11 degrees 27 Leo in the constellation of Cancer. Leo is all about fire power, love and confidence. This fire of Leo will burn through all the illusions and outdated beliefs you have around love and being seen for your authentic self. On the flip side, Cancer is all about emotions, family and the home. How can you break down your innermost fears to welcome the relationship, career or change of your dreams?
In addition, eclipses mark endings as well as new beginnings. They will illuminate the truths we were never able to see before. Expect to have more than a couple "a-ha" moments in the weeks to come.
I believe that this eclipse will allow us to stand firm in what we are passionate about. There is an opportunity to find a new-found confidence in your abilities and dreams. The key is to learn to listen to the soft inner voice within. The key is to listen to your emotions and see what they are trying to tell you.
Do not be surprised if the past is dug up for release. A past love, person or situation could come back around again. Think back to what was going on in your life last August. Last August we experienced the Solar Eclipse in Leo, so any themes around love and self-worth that you were facing then will come back around for a do-over.
And for the record, the sign of Leo never does anything small. Be prepared for a sudden change. You will probably be smacked in the face out of nowhere....and it doesn't have to be something to fear.
I'm seeing that most people will have to move through the initial stages of anxiety and fear once everything starts to change, but if they keep strong, their wishes will be granted.
What's different since last August is that you are different, changed. You can make a new choice. You can choose again from a place of love and authenticity. The truth is that you only need yourself to make it happen. People, places and situations may not have changed, but you have.
You can change everything for the better. All you have to do is stand in your truth.
Take a deep breathe. Meditate. Take some time away from people leading up to the eclipse tomorrow morning. The energies will be intense, especially in North America where the eclipse is visible.
Im seeing that during and after this eclipse both males and females will be pushed more into their feminine energy which is all about feeling and expressing emotions.
The rise of the feminine is indeed happening.
So...what emotions have you been holding in? What words or truth have you not been able to say? What chance have you not been willing to take?
You are powerful and you can find the strength. I believe in you.
Happy Eclipse and may you find the calm within the storm. I'm thinking of you.
The Goddess energy is primal and ancient. For thousands of years, the energy of the feminine has been abused, used and shamed.
We are finally in a time where both the masculine and the feminine energies are coming into balance. Why is this so important?
Just take a quick look at the recent headlines: many women are speaking up about sexual abuse and harassment. Women are finding their voices, and men are willing to support them.
The energy of the goddess has always been within you. This energy is not tied to gender. We all have both masculine and feminine within us.
I like to think of the masculine energy as action and the feminine energy as receptivity. During our day to days lives we utilize both energies whether we are consciously aware of it or not.
Here are some simple ways in which you can honor the Goddess within and change your life forever:
1. Look people in the eyes
I performed a sort of experiment the last time I was in Paris. I’m someone who used to be quite shy and could never look anyone in the eyes. After living in France, I noticed how the French don’t shy away from eye contact.
When I was walking in the streets in Paris, I decided to look people in the eyes. What happened was transformative. I felt empowered. I felt sexy. I felt like my best self.
I felt like I wasn’t hiding from who I was anymore.
If you don’t feel comfortable looking strangers in the eyes, that’s fine. Start small. Start looking close family and friends in the eyes when you talk to them. Then, little by little try to extend that to strangers.
2. Don’t need, attract
In our day to day lives it can be easy to fall into the energy of over-giving. Our boundaries get watery, and we simply don’t know when to release control or walk away all together.
The feminine energy is feeling, emotion. We feel so deeply that we inherently care so deeply too.
When you can reign in your energy instead of projecting outward constantly, something truly magical happens.
For example, I like to think of two magnets with a positive and negative polarity. When both magnets are giving the same energy, they repel. If both magnets are giving the opposite energy, they attract. So, this means that to receive what you desire you must learn to create space and focus within yourself.
The easiest way to practice this at first is allowing someone to do something for you. This can be as simple as having a co-worker pick up a shift for you or letting someone open the door for you.
I challenge you to not be afraid to say “yes” when someone offers to do something nice for you. I know that I too often fall into the habit of kindly refusing, because I don’t want to be a bother or show that I need help.
The Goddess in you doesn’t care. She just wants to feel supported.
3. Nurture your flaws
We talk about how important it is to love your flaws, but no one talks about how hard that is. It’s a cycle. It’s like peeling off the layers of an onion. I think I’ve accomplished self-love and acceptance and then I get a zit or I say something horrible to someone I care about…
It’s not easy. It’s a process. The Goddess within you doesn’t see flaws. “Flaws” are created by humans, therefore they are an illusion. They are someone else’s version of reality. You don’t have to accept them as “flaws.” You can just accept them as you.
You can settle safely into the comfort of knowing that the universe is only teaching you how to come back to love. Every experience, every hardship is a lesson in how to love yourself and others more.
Nurture your imperfections. They make you the Goddess you are.
Such a small word, such a hard thing to do. We all know we will be happier once we can accept where we are or what’s currently going on in our lives, but it doesn’t make it any easier.
The Goddess within you takes a deep breath and knows that anything he/she could possibly desire is already within reach. Every possible outcome you can think of already exists. Settle into that comfort and let the rest flow.
Create more than you consume. Now, you don’t have to go and become the next Picasso. I’m talking about writing a “thank you” letter, or writing in your journal every morning.
Create a blog post you’ve always wanted to. Create a poem…whatever tickles your fancy. But there is one requirement: it must be fun.
And no, homework or a work assignment does not count.
You have a passion. You have something that lights you up from the inside. Fan that flame.
The Goddess in you is calling.
It’s easy to let her fall to the wayside under the heavy burden of everyday life. It’s easy to pretend like your life isn’t flying by at a thousand miles per hour.
But if you are here reading this article, it’s a sign that the energy of the Goddess is already within you. Don’t be afraid to be who you really are. I know you can.
Podcast with Robert Dunn originally published on The Orion Group. Topic: Twin Flames Pt. 1
What if all relationships in your life could be healed with one simple understanding?
There would probably be less fights, less divorces and less estranged friends and family members.
The secret to having successful and mutual relationships is much easier than we think.
It doesn’t require extensive therapy or counseling. It doesn’t even require you to talk to the person. It requires one simple saying that you can learn to embody in every interaction in your life.
Love them where they are. Love them as they are, not as who you want them to be.
As humans we are swayed by our own perspectives of the world. But no one else can see like you do, feel like you do much less love like you do.
So don’t expect anyone else to either.
1. Love you where you are
If you crave happy and fulfilling relationships with others, start with yourself. Cultivate a relationship with yourself. Take yourself out to a movie, buy yourself flowers, love yourself even when you are at your worst.
Understand why you feel the way you do. Journal. Think. Write.
Ask yourself questions and don’t just push your feelings aside. Because by doing so you are telling yourself that you do not matter.
The unglamorous truth is that you may have to spend some time alone. You may have to be single for a while. But I promise you, it will be the most worthwhile time spent in your life.
2. Don’t react just reflect
As children we learned how to respond to relationships. Before you could even figure out what a relationship was you had it modeled to you: by your parents.
In my childhood I learned to create contempt. I learned how to blame and judge the other person. I learned how to call the other person names.
There is no judgement. There is only acceptance.
So, when you find yourself feeling triggered by someone ask why. Ask yourself what wound in you is being pressed on.
Then don’t react. Just think. Just breathe. Just accept. Honor the other person and their perspective of their world.
3. Don’t put conditions on the unconditional
We all know that only loving someone when they buy you gifts is wrong. We all know that only loving someone when they tell you is wrong. We all know that loving someone only when they are there physically with you is wrong.
We are taught unconditional love the most in our platonic relationships and somewhere along the way we lost this basic understanding in our romantic relationships.
Romantic relationships got pushed under the heavy pressures of the modern age; leaving more and more young people unhappy, lost and stuck in relationships that leave them feeling alone.
So, in this growing landscape of technology I challenge you to see the simplicity in love: to love yourself first and then…
Love them where they are.
(Originally published on Thought Catalog)
After going to the derma for the last and final time to try to win the pimple war that was currently on the lower-half of my face, I decided to heal my cystic acne naturally once and for all.
No more antibiotics. No more medications messing with my body.
After doing extensive research on amazing websites such as Well and Good, I was ready to put an end to my painful, cystic acne.
Here are the top methods that have worked wonders for me:
1. Identify and limit trigger foods
Everyone's trigger foods are different. Trigger foods are foods that cause the balance in your body to go haywire and they increase inflammation in the body which shows up on the skin.
Try eliminating foods that have you feeling yuck, or foods that you notice cause you to get a pesky zit right after eating them.
For me my trigger foods are: 1. Coffee 2. Chocolate 3. Peanut butter/nut butters 4. Bananas and dates (high-sugar fruits) 5. Potatoes/simple carbs
Yeah, your trigger foods may even be your favorite foods. I struggled with this for a while. Once I got my skin looking nice by avoiding my triggers, I would splurge and eat them only to have zits pop up the next day.
Your resolve has to be bigger than your cravings, so you can pin-point your own causes of inflammation. In my case, I had to completely eliminate my trigger foods from my diet to see results.
2. Keep your skin care simple
Avoid heavily fragranced, rough and abrasive cleansers. Look for a cleanser that is gentle and for sensitive skin. I use La Roche-Posay Cleansing Milk. It's so milky and smooth that when I use it with a little bit of warm water, it's the perfect cleanser for my skin.
Go simple. Go natural. Don't break the bank.
When it comes to moisturizers or serums don't go overboard. I use Cerave because I have very dry skin that turns red. If I use a serum I use a little Josie Maran Argan Oil (2 drops at most) and massage that onto my face at night every once and a while.
The key to skincare is consistency. Don't change up products and don't stop using them if you don't see instant results. Try it out for a few weeks and you will see improvement if it's working for your skin.
3. Heal your gut
The relationship between a healthy gut and skin is often over-looked by modern medicine. When I went vegan, I developed leaky gut syndrome and had an over-growth of candida and yeast. I had to balance my diet with more fats and proteins and limit sugar intake.
Just recently I started drinking 1 tablespoon of Organic Apple Cider Vinegar (with "mother") in a cup of hot tea or hot water. I drink this 2 times a day about 10-15 minutes before a meal.
This has transformed my skin in less than 2 weeks! I have not had one single cyst since starting this routine of ACV. Don't believe me? Try it out for yourself.
It's so much cheaper than taking antibiotics and it helps you detox your body, instead of harming it like many antibiotics do.
If you are like me, and are at your wits end with the cycle of painful acne please look within your body.
Acne is simply a sign that something is not working properly within. As within, so without.
I want to also mention how a positive attitude, self-love and acceptance can make all the difference.
Every time I get a pimple I send love to the pimple and tell my self how beautiful I am even with it. I try to take my mind off the pimple and focus on something positive instead. This helped my breakouts not last as long and not be as severe.
Just remember that once you heal your body, you heal your skin.
What even is a twin flame relationship?
Maybe you’ve seen a few articles shared on Facebook about this “heavily romantic phenomenon.” And while the dynamic can be romantic, it is not the sole purpose of this connection. (Shocking, I know…)
According to my definition: twin flames are two people who possess the same soul or energy signature. One person usually takes on more of the masculine energy (think the light in the yin/yang symbol) and one person usually takes on the feminine energy (the dark.)
What does this even mean? Here are a few components of a twin flame relationship to better explain the dynamic:
1. Increased self-awareness
This is number one on my list, because the whole purpose of a twin flame connection is YOU.
This connection forces you to let go of who you thought you were. This connection forces you to take off that mask and bask in your vulnerability as a beautiful, special soul.
Around the time of meeting your twin flame for the first time, many people experience increased self-focus and self-awareness. This is not to be confused with being self-centered. This is about YOU finally letting yourself pursue your passions and realizing your old plans for your life simply don’t fit with who you are anymore.
2. Instant connection and attraction
This connection isn’t your cookie-cutter love at first sight. This ain’t no Romeo and Juliet…
I would akin the first meeting to an unfathomable magnetic attraction. You’re drawn to them. They’re drawn to you, and you both can’t rationalize why.
You may come from different cultures, speak different languages or seem like complete opposites on the surface, yet there is this undercurrent of love and acceptance for them almost instantaneously. As you talk to them, you find out you have similar passions.
When you look into their eyes it’s like looking into a mirror and coming home. This brings up extreme attraction, but also extreme fear and confusion. For the first time in your life you feel content and at-ease. However, all emotions are brought to the surface including the good, the bad and the ugly… simply because both of your souls are trying to purge any negative baggage that is blocking you from loving unconditionally.
3. A period of letting go
Many people believe that the negative emotions and fears that are brought to the surface is a sign that you are “bad” for one another. Other people in your lives such as friends or family may not be able to understand it.
It is essential to understand that this other person always looks out for you and is always wanting the best for you, even if they too are caught in their own confusion and fear. The connection is always mutual and always based in love.
There are many articles that speak about “separation” or a stage of “running/chasing.” I’m not going to mention these stages specifically because they aren’t necessary or needed in every situation. Just as every person on this planet is unique, every connection is unique and will follow its own journey as needed for both parties to awaken.
This realization that there is unhealed parts of self that need to be integrated and accepted is seen only upon the mirroring that happens between twin flames. That is what makes the connection so special and unique.
Enlightenment is all about learning to listen to yourself and your own guidance. It’s about being your own guru. It’s about listening to your heart. It’s about death and letting go and rebirth. It’s about the beautiful blessing of having two lives in one: the life of illusion and the life of enlightenment.
The twin flame connection defies every pre-set standard society has constructed for “romantic love.” Twin flames aren’t here to fit the mold, but to break the rules and uplift love to it’s original form: partnership.
A partnership where both masculine and feminine are equal and balanced. Where one honors and uplifts the other and the other does the same. Where the masculine isn’t afraid to be vulnerable and strong, and where the feminine isn’t afraid to assert her power but also ask for help…
Twin flames are highly evolved souls who came here to break down the barriers to love.
The biggest barriers of all being the ones that exist within us.
(*Originally posted on Thought Catalog)